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We met on a site where sexual exclusivity is neither expected nor encouraged (AdultFriendFinder). Neither of us planned to be exclusive, and, in fact, each of us already had an otherwise good but sexually disappointing primary relationship we did not plan to leave. Even though I didn't expect exclusivity, he was such a unique and great guy that I fell rather hard for him emotionally and romantically, and I think that may have frightened him away. After five or six months of "hot and heavy", we fell gradually out of touch over a period of months. The only thing I did *not* like is that, instead of politely telling me he had lost interest and moved on, he gave the excuse of being very busy with work projects, and intimated that a time might come when he would have time to spend with me again. But it became obvious, after three months with no further face-to-face meetings, even after his project crunch had ended, that he was really not all that interested in me anymore. I had to confront him with this. Naturally, those final-stage e-mail exchanges were a bit on the painful side, but he remained gallant and fair-minded throughout. If anything, he was *TOO* polite. I would have appreciated greater honesty from him, earlier on. He does not understand "be cruel to be kind." He can't be cruel. But except for that one problem -- and my own corresponding inability to "take a hint" or "read the handwriting on the wall" -- he was everything I wanted in a "secret boyfriend" and "rebound toy" for nearly six months. For another woman who does not tend to wear her heart so much on her sleeve, who doesn't need to be at least half-in-love with a sex buddy, he would be just perfect. He's cute as a button, smart, funny, considerate, fascinating, sexy, kinky, and lots of fun. Just watch out for his tendency to, while thinking he's "letting you down easy", maybe drag things out longer than they should be dragged out. BTW, by "stunning", I mean "stunning to me". His good looks are unconventional -- a bit retro, a bit "cowboy" (longish fine straight light-brown hair, handlebar mustache, crinkly eyes). His body is absolutely slammin' -- lithe and graceful and fit -- especially for a man in his 50s.

1-December-2005, 10:26PM